Facets of a Muse

Examining the guiding genius of writers everywhere

Seeking Solitude

3 Comments

I have a confession. I like being alone.

Oh, I like socializing, too, but not to the extent a lot of people seem to. If I have no one to visit and nowhere to go on a weekend, I’m good with that. There have been times when I wondered if my desire for solitude was a bad thing. I just came across this article assuring me that it’s okay to spend time without anyone else around.

My mother was a nurse, with the accompanying crazy hours. When she wasn’t working she was constantly doing something, going somewhere, visiting someone. Even during her chemotherapy, when the first day after treatment was still a good day, she’d plan hours of errands to get done. I suppose she wanted to take advantage of the good day before the bad one, the one where she could barely function because of her reaction to the chemo drugs. I remember talking to her on the phone, listening to her list of “things to do”. I got worn out just thinking about them. I tried to encourage her to take it easy. LIke she ever listened to me…

It amazes me when I meet people who need to socialize to “recharge”. The concept is foreign to me. Part of me feels guilty at needing time alone, because my mother never seemed to. Don’t get me wrong; I do like spending time with family and friends, but not a lot of time (a lot of time being more than a couple of days). Even with my own family, I still enforce an hour of “quiet time” on weekends and holidays: an hour when the kids are either in their rooms or outside for an hour. This has been the rule since they were old enough to only need one nap a day (For reference, my children are 16 and 14 yrs old).

As for writing, time alone is mandatory, especially when I’m trying to write a first draft or revise. I can only get so far away from the buzz of activity in the house–I won’t get my own office until the kids leave for college. Maybe. My husband keeps threatening to build me a Rapunzel tower. I can’t wait, but by that time I’ll probably be too old to climb the stairs! When discussing writing spaces, writing articles and books suggest everything from writing at the library to finding a seat at a Starbucks to getting a hotel room for a weekend.

There’s something, though, about the comfort of being at home, so I’m disinclined to head somewhere else for the sole purpose of writing unless I’m also attending a writing conference or a reunion with my Writing Sisters. As long as the television is off, there is no teenage bickering, no loud music, and nothing else is demanding attention “right now” (dust and weeds can wait for an hour or two), I can hear my muse.

Do you need quiet to write? Or can you still focus if you are somewhere it isn’t quiet and there’s a lot of other things going on? Can you write at a Starbucks, with patrons constantly moving around? Or at a hotel, where the rooms are less than inspiring? How about at a park? Of all the other locations I could go to for the purpose of writing, a state or national park is probably the one I’d take advantage of more than any other. Now, if I could just read my computer screen outdoors and keep the bugs (mosquitoes, gnats, flies, etc) away, I’d be set.

Where do you go to write when you feel the need to just settle and focus? Where would you go to do your writing if you could go anywhere in the world? Okay, given that option, I’d vote for a log cabin deep in the forests of the Pacific Northwest (Minnesota or Wisconsin will work, too), where the air smells of the green trees, the loamy earth, and either the sea or a creek. I’d have a connection to the Internet (for research and backing up my writing), a meandering path to a “thinking chair” that overlooks a waterfall for those times I need to move around or just clear my mind, an easy drive so I wouldn’t have an excuse not to go there, and a nice fireplace for those chilly nights.

Don’t sell “mental” vacations short. In lieu of a real writing retreat, fifteen minutes of meditation about your dream writing spot may be just enough to settle your mind and jump-start the creative energy. Bring your muse along and let the words flow.

Advertisements

Author: Julie Holmes, author

Pen name: J. M. Goebel A fiction writer since elementary school (many years ago), and NaNoWriMo annual participant for a decade, I've been published in small press magazines such as "Fighting Chance" and "The Galactic Citizen". Currently I have two polished novels ready for the world and a number of others waiting their turn. I write adult mystery with extrasensory elements, mystery with a touch of romance, contemporary fantasy, and epic fantasy. In real life, I am a technical writer with a family of two teens, a wonderful hubby, one cat (what writer doesn't have cats??), two dogs, six chicken, and more chipmunks, squirrels, and rabbits than any garden should have to deal with. My garden, our "au natural" hobby farm, and Ma Nature's annual seasons are some of my muses.

3 thoughts on “Seeking Solitude

  1. We recently made our permanent home in “vacation land.” We live in a small community in a wooded area on a lake. It’s pretty close to my ideal setting. It is very peaceful and quiet here and I expect it to be even more so as the seasonal people go away for the winter. I try to spend mornings in my art studio (when I’m not sitting by the lake). It has lots of natural light and a nice view. Sometimes I take my laptop in and write in my studio as well as creating art. I knew we were going to get out of the city when Bob retired, but I never dreamed we would end up in a place like this. It is wonderful!

    Like

    • That sounds wonderful! Thank you for sharing (and making the rest of us envious!) πŸ™‚
      Our hobby farm is nowhere near any bodies of water, but that’s on my hubby’s wish list for the next residence (whenever that might be). We do have a nice grove that in the summer is wonderfully green. There is a clear spot under the leafy canopy that is nice, or would be if the mosquitoes didn’t like it too! Every so often I do sit out in the bench swing on the deck and just listen to the birds and breeze.

      Like

  2. It took me over 50 years to get here and then it was sort of by accident. I wasn’t going to brag, but sometimes I just can’t resist. πŸ™‚

    Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s